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Why don’t we talk about periods?

Why don’t we talk about periods?

I was asked a very interesting question over the weekend… Why don’t we talk about our periods and what effect does this have on women and girls? As I was compiling my answer, I sat and figured out how long I have been having periods. 22 years 264 periods An average of 1,320 days bleeding I’m 36 and I only found out 6 months ago that I had fibroids, ovarian cysts, endometriosis and adenomyosis. However, I knew intuitively something wasn’t right with me about 10 years ago. That’s 120 periods back 600 days of periods. Looking at it in terms of numbers and hours it really started to make me think, holy crap how long did I ignore all that for? How long did I put up with the fob-offs and the nobody-really-knowings? How long was I in the dark about my own body? Too fucking long is the answer

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Why Am I in this Hormonal Hell?

Why Am I in this Hormonal Hell?

Every single damn month without fail: cramping, bloating, sore boobs, weeping, wanting to poke eyes out with spoons, white hot irrational rage followed by plummeting into barely being able to pick up my cup of tea, craving anything packed with sugar… taking a quick breath above the water before around we go again on the purgatory period (not even remotely) merry-go-round. The sympathetic members of your family will ask: what the bloody hell is the matter with you? To which you scream or wail (depending where you are at): I don’t fucking know, I just feel unsupported/overwhelmed/nobody does anything in this sodding house/I hate my boss shit fit. Everything hurts. Your belly, back, legs. Your boobs are so sensitive your bra feels like glass and you need your stretchy clothes. Where the fuck are they?! Everything needs to be black in case you leak out; you delve to the bottom

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Phyto-Oestrogens plant based oestrogen that can affect our health.

Phyto-Oestrogens plant based oestrogen that can affect our health.

I have talked a lot about the xeno-oestrogens – the ‘foreign’ oestrogens we get from beauty products, plastics and non-organic foods. In this blog I wanted to look a bit more in-depth at the phyto-oestrogens – the plant-based oestrogens that are found in various types of foods. Phyto-oestrogens are a generally weaker form of oestrogen when compared to both the natural oestrogen we produce and xeno-oestrogens; however, they can still have an affect on our bodies, both positive and negative. It is important to understand these impacts, especially in the context of managing oestrogen dominance. We tend to think of oestrogen being a key player in reproductive health for both men and women. However it also plays a part in the cardiovascular, musculoskeletal, immune, and central nervous systems. On the positive side, phyto-oestrogens can help to enhance heart health, reduce certain types of hormonal cancers, improve Menopause health and boosts

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Oestrogen Dominance – What is it?

Oestrogen Dominance – What is it?

Oestrogen dominance is causing havoc in most of our lives, it affects women and men and its symptoms can be devastating. Endometriosis is just one of the dis-eases you can acquire with oestrogen dominance. Oestrogen is found naturally in our diet but more worryingly xeno-oestrogens, which are foreign oestrogens, are mimicking our own natural oestrogen and having huge disruptions, creating imbalance to our hormones and our health. When the environment we live in was free from oestrogen pollutants 70 years ago there were only 21 reported cases of endometriosis the current number in North America alone in 5.5million. A study in 1993 showed monkeys that had been fed a diet containing xeno-oestrogens over a four-year period developed endometriosis and a thickened uterus. In the UK 1 in 10 women, that’s around 3.2million have endometriosis, it takes around 7 years for a diagnosis so these are numbers that we know of!

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Thinking Yourself Sick

Thinking Yourself Sick

My biggest lesson – you don’t have to have had a baby to be a mother. During the heartache of negotiating a childfree life with Mr B, you might be forgiven for thinking that my work would have been like a red hot poker in my eye everyday. It really wasn’t at all. When I was teaching, or doulaing, or rubbing pregnant feet and bellies, I never felt rubbish. I nurtured and cared for those women to my highest ability and revelled in the work. I was, and still am, completely drawn to it. I did wonder that maybe not having experienced childbirth myself might be a bit of a problem. But my wise doula mentor put me at ease when she told me ‘Gem you won’t bring any expectation into that room, you will be free of your own story’.  Clients ask if I have kids but it has

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Childless by Choice

Childless by Choice

I’m Gem, the owner of The Well Woman Project where I work as a well woman specialist,   doula and teach The Wise Hippo birth programme. I help to empower women about their bodies and their choices in a safe and nurturing environment. Before I set up my business I was a paediatric nurse for 15 years. I have held hands with families through birth and death, wiped tears of joy and sadness. Hugged babies and teenagers, talked to parents throughout the night and reassured them in their hour of need. I have seen the best and worst of being a parent and a child. I am a woman, wife, daughter, sister, aunty, friend, and childless by choice. I share with you in the hope that at best it might help you discover some answers and at the very least some hope. Because, I think at the end of the

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The small things are the big things in disguise

The small things are the big things in disguise

I am sucker for a quiz, I could while away several hours on play buzz finding out who’s my fairy godmother, what breed of dog I am or what colour hair I should get next. Silly but strangely addictive and I enjoy it! So when I picked up a magazine to my delight there was a quiz, ‘do I know how to enjoy life’ – where’s the pen I thought, lets fill out this baby. Turns out I was mostly circles which means ‘I relish the art of small pleasures’. It’s true I am a sucker for a quiz! Small things and guilty pleasures sound pathetic and a bit naughty really though don’t they? What about big pleasures? What about all these things we are supposed to want, that we are bombarded with in our waking hours. Cars, bigger homes, holidays, clothes, eating out, new phones, computers, the latest stuff,

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A Life Line

A Life Line

I truly believe we find a message when we need to hear it, I love being creative and I have been meaning to make a Monkey’s Fist knot for a while now. I thought it was an unusual name; it’s given because it does indeed look a little like a fist and it made it easier to throw the ropes between ships, a lifeline if you will. Now I am great at starting out looking at one thing and progressing on to something else rather randomly. I don’t know how I got onto this but the next thing I was reading about was how to catch a monkey – well you never know!! The metaphor really struck me so I want to share it with you, I think we are all in need of learning how to catch a monkey. It’s fair to say it would be a tricky task

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Oh My God! Are you having an elephant?

Oh My God! Are you having an elephant?

I have a gap in my front teeth. In my whole entire life on Earth no one has mentioned it, questioned it or asked me why I have or haven’t had it fixed. I don’t know if people like it or hate it, no one has ever told me one way or the other. I love it, it makes me who I am and when I think about it that’s all that really matters. If someone did ask me why I hadn’t had my teeth fixed because I would look better for it, I would feel like making a gap in their teeth! It would be rude, insensitive, a bit pointless to really question it and above all none of their business. The information they would get from that question wouldn’t enhance their life one little bit. So I invite you to imagine one of these scenarios. You are at

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